I haven't posted in awhile, but I should have. I have very happy updates!
On mother's day, I got a gift that made me cry... something I have been
waiting 8 1/2 years for! I took Chey's gift for me, from school, in to
her room to pen, and asked, "Can mama open her gift now?" and she said,
"mommy." She has said daddy and grandma before, but this is the first
time she said, "Mommy." to me!
Today, Chey just got off the bus. I took her hand, and she stopped, and stood
in front of me, holding her arms out, to get me to pick her up. I do,
often, refuse, so that, at 8 1/2 years old, she doesn't think I'm going
to carry her every time. This was not one of those occasions. Today, I
picked her up in a big hug, and was amazingly rewarded.. she sang me a
song she made up right there!!! "I got you, dadada! Oh, I need a hug!"
as she kind of dance back and forth. Now, we just gotta work on the mama/mommy
thing...lol. it happened once, and it will again! :D
Last week, we got Amber's testing/meeting done for reevaluation for spec ed. She was true to form, on distractibility, interrupting, and fidgeting..etc. I was a bit concerned that she'd have an off day for this..lol.
She is doing much better in school lately, and I'm no longer certain she needs an IEP, but I figured I should still see it through. I had definite reasons when I requested this, and if next year were to start poorly, I'd kick myself for not pursuing it.
We get our results at our appointment Monday. School is almost over, and setting up a new IEP at the end would be a crazy amount of work for her teacher.. but we can still use the last one, and the 504 as guidelines, if we do need to do it. Hopefully, that will make much shorter work of it.
Her school told me that a 504 is a legally binding thing, and would go with her, but I have also heard that a 504 is building only. We intend to move this summer, and we need these things in place, and required, for next year. I do not want another year like this, where I had to fight tooth and nail to get them to follow the plan, or where she was being reported on as a bad kid, misbehaving all of the time.
We do have her on meds now, that help greatly. She seems far more able to control the behaviors, and the distractions while she is on it. Unfortunately, hubby is very against medication, and we have been fighting over it constantly. He said he doesn't want her on it this summer. I, on the other hand, do not want my sweet little girl depressed, frustrated, and cranky all of the time, because I'm getting after her for interrupting, yelling, or not focusing, etc, 20x every hour. It isn't good for either of us, and makes everything stressful. Unfortunately, arguing with hubby daily doesn't work either. I tend to cave over time, for my sanity, but there is no cave for sanity here. It's more about who I'll be fighting with, than about how to fix both.
And Chey has been waking early around twice a week. She's had impulsivity issues that need help. If she can concentrate, she does amazingly. There are possibilities here too, that hubby fights against. She has the ability to do so much more, and the desire to. I've seen it.
so, how to help everyone, and not be constantly stressed out myself. I'm still working on that one. We'll get there. It's just the trip that's frustrating..
